Selfishness

It’s always good to strive for excellence. To be better. To advance yourself. To do good for yourself. After all there’s so much to learn and so many things you have to master.
This pursuit hides a black hole behind it.

Look at your mindset and the things you do daily. Deeply. If they are concerned with you learning something new, getting your work done, getting your body in shape ,etc… then you have a problem.
All of that will make you feel like you’re advancing and that you’re doing very well. It might as well feel like you’re getting closer to your goal day by day.

You’ve to be careful. Behind all those well meant actions is something that will destroy you. When everything you do is all about YOU, then selfishness will kick in. Selfishness can easily consume you. There will always be something you need to do, something you need to learn, something you need to catch up with or check out. The list is endless, isn’t it!

If you delve into this endless circle where everything is about you, nobody will be there to pick you up when you fall.

It’s good to strive for excellence. It’s really bad to only see yourself.

SMART is NOT smart!

We’re constantly being reminded to set goals. Since a very young age, the advice that I kept getting is set a SMART goal. I think we have grown accustomed to this goals focused mind-set. I think that’s wrong. I doubt that a goals focused mind-set is any good for you. Here’s why I think so:

  • Goals are destinations not journeys.
    You’re either there, or not there. When you’re there, you’re happy but that only lasts for a day or two. You spend most of the time fighting to get there, however, you never celebrate the fight.
  • We set our goals so high.
    Because we are encouraged to dream big and be ambitious. If you like pushing yourself hard (like me), you set a high goal and you don’t reach it. You fall down, pick yourself up and plan for another high goal that you don’t reach. You spend some time in this vortex till you give up the whole issue.
  • You acquire a destination oriented mindset.
    Your day to day mental voice is shouting “Results, Results, Results!”. It becomes what you eat, what you think about, what your breath. Until the pursuit gets the best of your soul. You start serving your goals instead of having your goals to serve you.

 

 

Discipline.

Of discipline I speak; for it’s mandatory for success.

Here’s what I learned of it so far:

  • I lack discipline.
    It’s true. I was never forced to do anything I hated for all my life. I’m passion driven not discipline driven.
  • Discipline is paramount.
    Rome wasn’t built in one day nor anything else worth building (your dream). You ARE to do things that you don’t want to!
  • Discipline is about saying NO.
    Saying no to things you like, to people you love and to things you want to do.
  • Discipline is about FOCUS.
    The more focused you’re the easier it is to say no.
  • Discipline is simple, yet HARD!
    Get focused and consistently say NO!

Seducing mediocrity

How long are u going to avoid the quest?
In our societies where mediocrity is near, it’s easy to forget your quest for an extraordinary (worthy) life.
Hard as it is, you ignore it as it brings more entropy than harmony to your mind. You try to forget.
You try to get involved In the pre-drawn map. Eventually finding anguish, you wonder why.

Avoiding your quest will not make it disappear. It is already embarked on your soul. Think of it as a curse (gift). Think of it as an itchy spot on your skin. It will always be there asking you to pursue it. Attending to it (no matter how hard) will get in the FLOW!

Indeed you might even gain that deepest of all satisfactions: knowing that your short time here on this earth has been well spent, and that it all mattered.

Jim Collins – Good To Great

Reality Check!

Unfortunately our societies don’t appreciate artists of your kind (status quo painters) as long as they are painting their art. Yet, once you’re finished everyone will be mad about you. Awkwardly, our society is based on a system where fit-ins don’t get noticed and heretics are glorified.

I know that most of the people don’t value what you do. Some of them might think it is a waste of time.
I know it is hard to push forward, to stay focused.

Once you get your art done, people who now think you’re a underachiever will look up to you. Once you change the status quo, your name will be carved in the history books. No one can erase it then.

No one said it will be easy, but damn it will be worth it!

The platform you are

Humans are the best platform ever! The intellectual, physical and spiritual capacity of humans -by definition- are endless. YOUR capacity is endless.

We all have the capacity to be the best there is; yet it is overwhelming how people don’t even try to be their best.

Think of yourself as the most powerful computer ever. One that can run any app, if you’re willing to go through the trouble of installing it!

The good news is; apps are free. Watch. Learn. Develop. Repeat.

If you don’t see YOU this way, you will end up blaming your circumstances, your parents and your education. You will not be making much progress either.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

Marianne Williamson